Hi Damsels!
Relationships have a lot to teach us. You may have been in that very abusive relationship which made you give up easily. You no longer needed some tips on how to save a relationship.
Imagine finding out that you man still has eyes for another girl. This girl you claim he has eyes for was there through it all; she was with him before you came into the picture. While you have no physical proof, you are pretty sure he cheated on you with this girl. He led both of you on for years, breaking up with one to get in bed with the other. Such a dilemma! Knowing all these and having broken up with this guy and then finding out he is engaged to this girl, you wouldn’t want to keep mute. You would surely love to save that sister from another disaster.
Ex-boyfriend
Here are the things you wish you could say to the woman who is engaged to your emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend;
1. ALWAYS QUICK TO RAISE HIS HANDS AGAINST YOU:
In a relationship, you may have thought that when your man used to jokingly say, “I’ll beat you”, he didn’t really mean it, but the reverse has been the case. This is something you won’t relent to tell the woman who is presently engaged to your abusive ex-boyfriend.
2. HE IS SELFISH:
As a girl who just left an abusive relationship, you’d be busy thinking whether he would do same thing he did to you to the woman who is recently engaged to him. These describe him; he’s selfish, wants it all, without doing anything in return. Nothing is ever his fault. The world is against him. It couldn’t have anything to do with the fact that he was never on time, always had an excuse, and never did the work. It’s not him. It’s you. Since he never finds fault in himself, he would find that fault in you.
3. INABILITY TO PROPERLY CATER FOR HIMSELF:
He doesn’t know how to be alone, much less know how to take care of himself. Do you want that? Do you want to be his mother for the rest of your life? If you do, then there’s no need pushing further, but I think you don’t, because no one does.
4. ALWAYS CHEATS:
This is the final straw that usually break the camel’s back. Phones are usually where you get the main gist. If after I searched his call history, noticed he had called you multiple times but specifically called you a few minutes before calling me, to work out a fight we had just had about you, then his cheating nature is still there.
Finally finding out that he was stringing both of us along is enough proof that he would continue cheating on you.
5. INDECISION:
As this seems to affect most guys, this equally affects the man you are so entangled with. There’s always going to be another girl for him. Another woman that will keep him unable to fully commit to you. It will start off innocently. Maybe they meet at work. Maybe in a class. He will always be looking for more, as the Oliver Twist that he is. He will then be indecisive about whom he really wants.
Well, you deserve better. You deserve a guy that doesn’t have one foot out the door. A man that isn’t going to play mind games, who won’t make you feel crazy for wanting to be loved and treated with respect, who won’t lie and can even do the simplest things like text you back in a reasonable time frame!
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